Destructive criticism/verbal abuse -name calling, mocking, accusing, humiliating

Pressure tactics -sulking, threatening to withhold money, manipulating children

Abusing authority- always claiming to be right, making big decisions

Disrespect- not listening and responding, putting down in front of family/friends

Abusing trust -lying, withholding information, cheating/being unfaithful

Breaking promises -not following through; not taking fair share of responsibility

Emotional withholding -not expressing feelings; not respecting feelings or rights

Minimizing, denying and blaming -saying abuse didn't happen

Economic control -refusing to give money or taking money; not letting her work

Self-destructive behaviors -abusing drugs or alcohol; threatening suicide

Isolation -preventing or making it difficult to see friends or family

Harassment -following; checking up; embarrassing her in public

Intimidation -making angry or threatening gestures; driving recklessly

Destruction -destroying possessions, punching walls; breaking things

Threats -making or carrying out threats to hurt her or others

Sexual violence -using force or coercion to obtain sex or to perform sexual acts

Physical violence -punching, hitting, slapping, strangling, biting, burning, stabbing